Deserving Of Others

          We as people never tell others that they are deserving of us, and of our company, in a way that tells them that they’re worth something when they may believe otherwise—because we often find it selfish to claim that someone else might deserve us. However, too many people feel like they don’t deserve to have friends, or be around loved ones, or allow others to care; especially when they care deeper than you could ever imagine. It is tradition to say that others deserve an individual, or that they deserve others, but I noticed that it’s extremely rare to ever form that connection between the two individuals standing right in front of each other. 

          “I deserve you, and you deserve me.” — Others deserve us just as much as we deserve them.

          We tend to bully ourselves into thinking we’re not good enough for others, or that we aren’t special in any sort of way. After all, how could one individual be “special” when there’s nearly eight billion people on this planet? — It’s really simple. There aren’t eight billion versions of you. They’re all different, and who they are does not matter when it comes to who you are. You are unique in that way—absolutely extraordinary. 

          And to think that these words will be touched by the hearts of other people, other human beings… It truly brings love into my heart. 

          We are all deserving of others, but are we deserving of the person across the room? And what if all that stood before you was a mirror? Would you say that you were deserving of your own presence, your own reflection? In some cases, that “other” is the only one that matters in your life. You, your reflection, your inner resolve—All things that seem to be buried beneath the dirt that is others’ perception of you and who you are. They do not know you. They are not you. They can only observe, as we can only observe them. But when one perceived reality clashes with another, chaos often ensues. And so, to prevent such chaos, we’d adhere to the whims of the wrong “others”—anyone that wasn’t ourselves. 

          It’s sad to say that most people that exist in the world today are not themselves, but rather have convinced themselves that the person they’re being is truly who they are, when in reality it’s what society chooses for us. Too many people in the world are trying to be someone else, almost as though society itself is on the path towards escaping its collective reality. 

          And I can never understand. The pain we feel because of it. The conflicting thoughts and inevitable emotional turmoil that comes with the thought of stepping into someone else’s shoes, but still doing it anyway only so that we’re able to connect to another part of reality that isn’t familiar to us, that we can observe and judge and imitate until the moment where we become indistinguishable from others. — A conformist mentality.  

          The bottom line, however, is that it is not whether we’re deserving of others, or that others are deserving of us. Neither is possible without first understanding that you must first be deserving of yourself before others. You must take care of yourself, be there for yourself, and love yourself before you can love others, or before the love others give you can matter. 

          Then you will be deserving of others, and others will be deserving of you. The feeling will be mutual, but only if you first love yourself.